tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post115044006096087356..comments2023-04-29T02:29:41.386-07:00Comments on I See Things in Widescreen...: Father's Day this weekend.RGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17428434404606700149noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150671192474790422006-06-18T15:53:00.000-07:002006-06-18T15:53:00.000-07:00So sad. I needed a few minutes to recover after I ...So sad. I needed a few minutes to recover after I was done reading. You are an amazing person and you do a great job expressing your emotions and your life experiences. You have a special gift with your ability to express yourself in such a way that makes the whole reading experience deeply personal and extremely accessible. Thanks for sharing.Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07911665249694683585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150656952400353472006-06-18T11:55:00.000-07:002006-06-18T11:55:00.000-07:00I saw my father today and I got a really emotional...I saw my father today and I got a really emotional because I was thinking about this post. I ran up to him and I gave him this HUGE hug and I teared up a little bit, but I did't cry! You made me realize how much I take my own dad for granted, and how important he is in my life. My dad thought that there was something wrong with me because I was acting overly eemotional, and i am never like this! But once I convinced him that it was just because I missed him, we had an awesome day. Thanks for sharing your life Eric, it really made this day more special for both my father and myself. <BR/><BR/>O yeah, I read that post that Trevor wrote. I was curious because it was mentioned in your comments a couple of times and I wanted to see what they were talking about. You are such a sweet guy! There are no words for what a special person you are.Marchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11269256468060111161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150611045921485012006-06-17T23:10:00.000-07:002006-06-17T23:10:00.000-07:00I am crying right now. I just want to give you a b...I am crying right now. I just want to give you a big hug.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150606509591276052006-06-17T21:55:00.000-07:002006-06-17T21:55:00.000-07:00I don't know what to make of this post. I can't te...I don't know what to make of this post. I can't tell how you feel about your father... <BR/><BR/>Do you love him or do you hate him? WHat is your relationship like now? <BR/><BR/>I am rally sad by your story and I hope that you guys have made some positive steps towards reconciliation. A father is an important person to have in your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150588268099825552006-06-17T16:51:00.000-07:002006-06-17T16:51:00.000-07:00***high five!! That was an awesome post. After I w...***high five!! That was an awesome post. After I was done reading this I called my dad and I thanked him for loving me so much and always supportig me in everything that I did. I was crying and I think that he thought I was about to tell him taht I was dying or something! But I just had to call him after reading this because I felt like I was taking my relationship with my father for granted. I now realize how special our bond is and I am truly sorry that your dad doesn't know how amazing his son is. Because if he did he would be the proudest man on the planet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150547347201142452006-06-17T05:29:00.000-07:002006-06-17T05:29:00.000-07:00I need a nap after reading this. You really know h...I need a nap after reading this. You really know how to emotionally drain a person! Great blog it made me think. Of what I am not sure, there are to many thoughts spinning through my head to focus on any one, but it was a great post. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150528756109631132006-06-17T00:19:00.000-07:002006-06-17T00:19:00.000-07:00In a nutshell, you are amazing!In a nutshell, you are amazing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150528368987231502006-06-17T00:12:00.000-07:002006-06-17T00:12:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for this post. My father and I h...Thank you so much for this post. My father and I have not been on speaking terms for years. I sometimes forget that just because we don't talk doesn't mean that he has stopped loving me. I think that its great that you still know in your heart that he loves you. Any father would be proud to have you as their sonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150526106137644162006-06-16T23:35:00.000-07:002006-06-16T23:35:00.000-07:00I have only been reading your blog sine wed. But I...I have only been reading your blog sine wed. But I have managed to read all of your posts. I have never read anything that was so easily relatable. I am an asian american baseball player. I play college ball and I feel like I have all of this pressure from my family, my team mates, myself and my culture. There is so much going on and your fears are my fears. It is so eerie to think that you are out there struggling the same way that I am. I can't describe how good it feels to not be so alone out there. I would love to ask you a lot of questions about how you deal with things and stuff. I think that I will do it in an email though... I hope that you have a good weekend also!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150525342375297782006-06-16T23:22:00.000-07:002006-06-16T23:22:00.000-07:00you may not see your relationship with your father...you may not see your relationship with your father as a positive, but do you think that you would be the same person if he had acted any differently? You are an amazing person that is capable of amazing things. I feel like I am witnessing the beginning of greatness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150524271898838022006-06-16T23:04:00.000-07:002006-06-16T23:04:00.000-07:00That part where you talked about your need to come...That part where you talked about your need to come out because you were scared that if you waited to long, people might view you as dishonest. I can relate to that on a personal level. I am in my early 30s and I feel like I have waited to long before coming out. Now I have gone to far and told to many lies to just look at everybody and tell them the truth. I am sorry if I am not making sense it is hard to think and see with all these tears rolling down my cheek. That really got to meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150523791619697592006-06-16T22:56:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:56:00.000-07:00You are brave, I am speechless.You are brave, I am speechless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150523303809633132006-06-16T22:48:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:48:00.000-07:00I am very impressed with you. I love how you write...I am very impressed with you. I love how you write this gay blog, but you don't make this the center of your world. You are much more than your sexuality and I think that is awesome. So many young gay men put way to much of their identities in the people that they choose to sleep with and I feel like that really hurts them and limits their experiences in life. However I also feel lik emaybe you should try and open yourself up more to gay culture because there might be a lot that you are missing and a lot that you have yet to experience once you embrace your gay life more. Sorry just playing devil's advocate, I think that you are an awesome guy with an awesome life! You are a great guy and a talented writer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150522955977492132006-06-16T22:42:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:42:00.000-07:00I was getting ready to go out, and I had some time...I was getting ready to go out, and I had some time to kill so I thought that I would read some blogs. I first read Matt's over at debriefing the boys, and then I read yours, and now I am a completel mess! I am balling my eyes out and I am in no condition to go anywhere! haha I feel like a complete loser right now. I just thought that it was imperitive that I share that with you. You are a gifted writer, keep up the good work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150522494894561552006-06-16T22:34:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:34:00.000-07:00That was deply personal and very touhing I feel li...That was deply personal and very touhing I feel like I know you now. I feel like such a dork, but I am sobbing as I write this comment. You are an amazing guy and I wish you the best of luck in building a relationship with your father. Never give up on him because he is just as lost as you are. Sometimes the children need to be the parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150521793576584602006-06-16T22:23:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:23:00.000-07:00You are the most grown up 20 year old that ever ex...You are the most grown up 20 year old that ever existed. I am in my early 30s and I am barely coming to terms with the tumultuous relationship that I have had with my father. Good for you for realizing early that you have to live your own life no matter what your father says or thinks, because at the end of the day, This is in fact your life that you have to live not his.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150521575274202732006-06-16T22:19:00.000-07:002006-06-16T22:19:00.000-07:00I love the way that you can put these things out t...I love the way that you can put these things out there. I am not in a place where I could display pain like that for the world to see. I can see how the internet would provide a safe and non threatening place for you to vent, but still. I would know that it was there. Godd for you for having the courage to be honest like this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150500942146464042006-06-16T16:35:00.000-07:002006-06-16T16:35:00.000-07:00I could not imagine my HS graduation without my fa...I could not imagine my HS graduation without my father there. When I read that part I lost it and I began to sob. I mean I was fighting it the whole time, but that part inparticular really got to me. I still can't stop! I am so sorry for you, but I am happy to see that you are okay after all of that. I could not even fathom not speaking with my dad for an entire year either. I hope that one day you guys can fine an even ground where you can get along with each other. Most fathers and sons do not share so much in common. And most fathers and sons aren't so close in age as you guys are. I feel so bad for you. And I just want you to know that I will be thinking about you on sunday and I hope that you catch some good waves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150499428849154652006-06-16T16:10:00.000-07:002006-06-16T16:10:00.000-07:00That was a very brave post. I sat here crying the ...That was a very brave post. I sat here crying the whole time. Not because I was sad that your dad didn't give you the respect that you deserve, (even though that was sad also.)but because you are such a strong and resourcful person. Keep up this good work, you really know how to pull a reader in and keep their interest, because I was totally enthralled with your words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150498985803920582006-06-16T16:03:00.000-07:002006-06-16T16:03:00.000-07:00That was really powerful, thanks for sharing. I so...That was really powerful, thanks for sharing. I sometimes forget that other people have problems also. thanks for putting everything into perspective for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150496596124189762006-06-16T15:23:00.000-07:002006-06-16T15:23:00.000-07:00I don't even know what to say. You are an amazing ...I don't even know what to say. You are an amazing guy to be able to talk about your life like this. I loved the fact that you are open enough to share your life like this. It really seems like the more you come out of the closet, the more confidence you have in yourself and your life. I love yreadin gour blog, because you never stay in one place. You have this dynamic life and you live with constant change. I love that about you. I could relate to your words today in a big way. Thank you for sharing, at this point in my life this was something that came right on time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150494765348734932006-06-16T14:52:00.000-07:002006-06-16T14:52:00.000-07:00that was deep. Thanks for sharing. It meant a lot....that was deep. Thanks for sharing. It meant a lot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150494205926290932006-06-16T14:43:00.000-07:002006-06-16T14:43:00.000-07:00Fathers have a way of making their sons feel inade...Fathers have a way of making their sons feel inadequate. I don't think that they ever do this on a conscious level the way that your father does it. But most of us have father's who are worried that their son's are going to surpass them and make the obsolete. <BR/><BR/>You have already become a person that any father would recognize as a success and that probably scares him a lot. Don't let his fear win. Keep on living your life, and one day you guys will find a way to have a relationship. No matter what, a father will always think about his son and worry him. Even if they don't share these feeling with you, a father has these thoughts. He loves you and its good that you know it. I am confident that one day he will be mature enough to be a father that you can respect. I wish you all the luck and wisdom to recognize and accept your father the day he is ready.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150493198762741942006-06-16T14:26:00.000-07:002006-06-16T14:26:00.000-07:00I have a lot of respect for somebody that can be s...I have a lot of respect for somebody that can be so open about his life. I am sure that writing this post was extremely difficult for you. You did a great job letting your emotions flow and getting out the way that you felt about this situation. You are an inteligent and artiulate man and I love they way that you express yourself. <BR/><BR/>I love reading your blog because I never know what to expect from your next blog. I hope that your weekend goes well also. It seems like you have a lot to do so your mind will be pretty much occupied the whole time. That's a good thing. Thanks for sharing, that was a very brave thing to do.<BR/><BR/>ps<BR/><BR/>What does "emo" mean?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11718287.post-1150491972075318702006-06-16T14:06:00.000-07:002006-06-16T14:06:00.000-07:00You are an awesome person. I don't know how I woul...You are an awesome person. I don't know how I would react if I had a father who resented me the way that your father has done to you. You are the type of person who changes the world by just being who you are. All of these things that happen to you are just life experience that make you the great man that you are today. I get that its painful, but look at what the finished product is. You are wonderful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com